Why is it so important for you to be feeling grateful? What are the benefits? And how exactly do you practice an attitude of gratitude?
Gratitude has been on everyone’s lips for a long time. This is because it’s such an easy and beautiful way to make your life better.
It’s basically just about shifting your focus.
A little away of what may “not fit” in your life towards what is all good but not aware of OR just take it for granted.
What makes feeling grateful so difficult?
Usually, gratitude is something we only feel at very special moments. A special feeling that you don’t necessarily feel every day.
Feeling gratitude is also very fleeting. It’s just there all of a sudden. But in the next moment it is gone again. And you are back in your normal everyday mode.
Habits and everyday life are the natural enemies of feeling grateful. Because everything that you are used to you will at some point automatically be taken for granted.
And it is usually very difficult for us to suddenly see the obvious with different eyes again.
When you’re not in the mood for gratitude
When you are in a bad phase, you usually don’t think about being grateful for anything.
Your thoughts revolve solely around what is currently bothering you so much. You don’t have the nerve to focus on good things.
But in such a situation, practicing an attitude of gratitude can give you relief.
Because especially in difficult times it is extremely important to have a little light of hope.
How to start feeling grateful everyday
There are endless reasons to feeling grateful. Be it a roof over your head. Clean drinking water OR good health.
It can be something completely different for everyone.
Therefore the question naturally arises:
How can you invite this feeling of deep gratitude into your life so that you are grateful more often?
How can you make yourself feel more grateful?
Here are several methods to help you start feeling grateful more often.
10 simple ways to practicing an attitude of gratitude
1. Find three good things
Take a piece of paper and a pen. And then answer the following questions.
- What 3 things have gone well lately and how did they make you feel?
This exercise is a quick way to become aware of what you can be thankful for.
2. Make a gratitude list
The gratitude list is a bit more extensive. With this method you can find out what you can be feeling grateful for and in long run incorporate an attitude of gratitude in your life.
It’s very easy: take a piece of paper and a pen.
And write one of the following sentences.
- I am lucky that …
- It is something very special that …
- Not everyone can say that …
- Maybe I have many reasons to be sad / angry / worried / … right now. But at least …
Pick the beginning of the sentence that speaks to you the most.
Then set a timer for 5 minutes.
Start the timer and write down everything you can think of at the beginning of the sentence. Really everything!! Pull through for 5 minutes. Even if after a short time you think you can’t think of anything. You will think of something else.
At the end of the 5 minutes you will have a great collection of things to be thankful for. And you can keep adding to this list.
This is how you become aware of how many good things there are in your life. You can just look at this list from time to time. And every now and then pick something out for which you want to be grateful.
3. The good aspect of the bad
In everyday life if you only notice the things that are not good in your life? Then this method might be for you.
An example: You don’t enjoy your job.
Ask yourself: what’s good about it anyway?
- The nice colleagues?
- That you can pay your bills?
Another example: The quarrels in the family are annoying. But what is still good about it?
- That you can make up again?
- That you all still keep in touch?
There is at least one aspect of everything in your life that is currently in need of improvement that is still good.
Find the good things!
4. The nondescript scenario
Sometimes it can be difficult to find things to be thankful for because you just haven’t had any practice at all.
It can be easier for you to do it the other way around.
And keep your focus on the “bad”.
To the nondescript scenario, ask yourself one of these questions:
- What could have gone wrong in your life so far?
- What could have been much worse?
- What misfortune could have happened that didn’t happen?
- What opportunities could you have been denied?
- Where were you really lucky when you were unlucky?
Find moments and situations where everything could have turned out a lot worse.
These moments are a good reason to make you start feeling grateful. Be thankful that it didn’t turn out ugly.
5. Consciously perceive the obvious again
What would you sorely miss if you no longer had it?
This question is an interesting mind game. It helps you figure out what you may have taken for granted for a long time.
Take something everyday- your apartment, your family, your household items or the country in which you live.
Forget for a moment that all these things are of course not perfect either.
Instead, think about what would happen if these things were irretrievably stolen from you.
How would that be?
- If you no longer had an apartment but lived on the street.
- When you no longer had a family and were alone.
- If you no longer lived in a democracy, but in a dictatorship.
- If you didn’t have clean water.
- If there weren’t any washing machines.
Let your imagination play a little.
And deliberately enjoy these things that you have already taken for granted. Start feeling grateful!
6. Say thank you in everyday life
If someone let you in front of the checkout OR hold the door open for you. A driver waiys for you to cross the street. A service person is really super nice to you.
Use these mundane situations as an opportunity to notice how often you could actually say thank you in everyday life. Of course, you can also use it directly as an occasion to say thank you.
The more often you say “thank you” to people in everyday life, the more you focus on the positive behaviors in your environment.
Use this as a conscious reminder for yourself to practicing an attitude of gratitude in everyday life too.
They could have slammed the door in your face … But this person just wanted to be nice to you
7. The gratitude diary
The gratitude diary is a classic method to train gratitude.
There are many ways to write a gratitude journal.
The following variant has the best effect: Once a week write down 5 things for which you are feeling grateful for.
So make a weekly appointment to remind you of this. And write your personal gratitude diary .
8. A daily gratitude ritual
Create a little gratitude ritual for yourself. Best in the morning after waking up or in the evening before going to bed.
Ask yourself when you wake up in the morning:
- What can I look forward to today? And what can I do myself to make it a good experience?
Or ask yourself in the evening when you go to sleep:
- What went well today And what did I contribute to it myself?
These questions sharpen your eye for the everyday things for which you can be grateful.
9. The gratitude letter
Write a thank you letter to someone you are feeling grateful to. Maybe someone you never really had the chance to say thank you to.
You don’t have to send your letter off afterwards.
Just writing is enough to noticeably increase your sense of happiness.
10. A gratitude meditation
If you’re not so into writing exercises, a gratitude meditation might be for you.
A gratitude meditation works like a fantasy journey. You put yourself in moments of gratitude in your life and feel the feelings from back then again.
Just get started and indulge in beautiful moments from the past.
10 Gratitude Methods: Which One Is What For You?
You have now learned 10 ways to practicing an attitude of gratitude everyday!
Not every method will be for you. But two or three will definitely work for you.
The best thing to do is to alternate the methods a bit. So there is no getting used to. Because habituation is an enemy of gratitude
And don’t give up if it doesn’t feel great the first time … You can train gratitude and you have to.
Only with practice will you get better and better at evoking gratitude in yourself.
Leave a comment below and tell me how your journey to feeling grateful everyday has been.
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